UPDATE: Miss Manners has just addressed a pressing etiquette issue that is resonating with many this holiday season. A reader has raised concerns about a friend’s habit of passing around his cellphone at dinner, creating discomfort for those wary of germ exposure, especially for those like her husband, who is immunocompromised.
As gatherings become more frequent during this festive period, the question of how to navigate phone-sharing etiquette has emerged as a hot topic. The reader expressed her discomfort and suggested that simply saying “No, thanks” may not suffice in maintaining social harmony.
Miss Manners recommends a proactive approach. She advises the reader to either have a private conversation with the friend or to announce that their dinner table will be a device-free zone. This not only addresses the current issue but also sets a precedent for future gatherings.
If the situation arises again, Miss Manners offers a clever solution: stand up and intercept the phone before it reaches your husband. By expressing enthusiasm over the photo and showing it to your husband first, the transition becomes natural, allowing you to pass it along without causing a scene. This tactful maneuver also provides an opportunity to excuse yourself momentarily, whether to the kitchen or bathroom, thus avoiding the awkwardness altogether.
In a related inquiry, another reader questioned the etiquette of responding to a neighbor’s post-Christmas open house, where guests are asked to bring food but no RSVP is requested. Miss Manners clarified that despite the lack of explicit response requirements, etiquette dictates that guests should still acknowledge the invitation. A polite decline is just as acceptable as an acceptance, reinforcing the importance of communication in social interactions.
Additionally, a third reader sought guidance on traveling with friends who do not share similar interests. Miss Manners reassured them that there is no obligation to travel with anyone, regardless of shared passions. However, she advised maintaining discretion about upcoming trips, suggesting a response that implies plans are already set or that the journey is an opportunity for solitude.
These insights from Miss Manners come at a crucial time when social gatherings are on the rise, and navigating etiquette can significantly impact relationships and comfort levels. As we approach the end of the year, these practical tips serve as a timely reminder for all to consider the feelings and health concerns of those around them.
For more etiquette advice, readers are encouraged to visit Miss Manners’ official website or submit their queries directly.
